Jan 25, 2010 0
About Funeral Services
A funeral is a time for grieving, a period for lamenting over the loss of their dearly-loved. Regardless of who passed away, our instinct would tell us to extend assistance and show sympathy. By attending the funerals and visitation, proper decorum must be observed.
When a person dies, the depressing information will be made known to all friends, relatives and acquaintance of the deceased. At the time of hearing or learning of a person’s passing away, it is customary to visit the home, funeral house or chapel where the funeral is to be held. It would mean a lot to the bereaved if you will express your condolences by offering whatever help you can, such as helping prepare the food or attending to small children. This commiserating act will provide an impression to the grieving family that someone is with them during their time of sorrow.
Should you not be a very intimate friend of the dead, expressing your condolences could be sufficed in 15 minutes. Saying “I am sorry” , “My condolence to your family” or like words of compassion could be fit to utter. Staying for the entire visitation is not necessary, although it is best not to leave when there are services or prayers is in progress. It is civil to stay and hear out as the family tells of their sad experience.
If viewing of the deceased is allowed like in an open casket visitation, you could view it and say a silent prayer or meditate over it. In selected instances the family will usher their visitor to the casket.
A condolence visit is without equal in commiserating with the decease’s family. If there is really no way to pay a personal visit during the funeral, there are alternative ways which are also acceptable as form of condolences. Cash or donations may be given to the surviving family. Flowers could be sent out to the home or place of funeral . Florists know which flower arrangements are suitable for funeral services. You may also choose to send memorial gifts, particularly if the family requested for it in place of flowers. If you are living out-of-town or in far away areas, a phone call could make up for expressing condolences. Even a short phone call somehow give a feeling of comfort for the surviving family. Sending food is an extra way of demonstration to assist provide for other visitors. A Mass Card (for a Catholic deceased) in addition or in place of funeral flower gifts, may be sent to the funeral. E-mailing is another option if a personal visit could not be made. The memo of sympathy would still be by the bereaved.
Modernity has eradicated wearing mourning attires at funerals allowing visitors to wear unfitting cheerful colors. The deceased must be given due respect and considering even your attire’s appearance is one of the ways to show respect for the dead and the surviving family.